Hug your babies
After a mother works so hard to start a family, and then loses that, she sees things differently. I see you cuddling or playing with your kids, and I think..."man, that's so sweet." Then I go through the grief. I think about how I should be cuddling two beautiful little girls, and listening to them twin babble, and suffering from sleep deprivation for them, not just my insomnia. THEN, I go through an immense feeling of love. That's all I want, and I can't wait to have that. Now, I understand that most of the time, people don't know what to say to a bereaved mother when she comments on how sweet it is. Naturally your reactions are usually, "yea but they're a brat, sooo" (not an actual quote, just a general example). I understand that you say these things to make me feel better. I know you say it with the best intentions. And I understand how difficult it is to talk to me about kids, because it's difficult for me as well. ...